Boundaries in Dating
By Henry Cloud & John Townsend
Henry Cloud and John Townsend claim that character, not method, is the real key to finding a quality partner. If you have good character, then just about any matchmaking methodology will work.
If, on the other hand, you have problems relating to others or are simply a rotten person, then no method you attempt to adapt will help you to overcome these handicaps.
Of course, those who aren’t nice to begin with but know how to manipulate people may be able to scam a few people here and there, but more often than not, this always leads to big trouble in relationships.
Boundaries in Dating describes where boundaries are needed, ways to set them, and how to enforce the consequences when they are violated.
Personally, this all sounds a bit controllish to me, but the authors view these things as tools that reveal someone’s true character.
Of course, as good Christians, the authors are not insinuating that you dismiss someone for treating you badly. If the person shows remorse for hurting you, they should be given another chance.
If you want to believe that being yourself is your best bet for fining the perfect person for you, then perhaps Boundaries in Dating might teach you something you need to know before you head out there to find love.