The Case For Women Not To Marry

The case for women not  to marry

The case for women not to marry

According to a recent British study, the higher a woman’s IQ the less likely she is to get married. The opposite is true for men.

I think smarter women don’t marry because they know that, if they do, they will have to expend all their energy on the relationship and kids, therefore they wouldn’t be able to focus on their studies and careers.

Smarter women know that marriage often leads to traditional gender roles wherein women are the housekeepers, mothers, and care-takers; so smart women know that if they go this route, then they likely won’t be able to pursue their ambitions.

Single women look younger

I remember an episode of Oprah where she featured women who were in their 50s and 60s and yet looked like they were in their late 30s or early 40s. What did all these women have in common? They were single!

Women are happily unmarried

I read it every now and then and I even see it on all kinds of television shows… single women in their 30s made out to seem like they’re in a desperate bid to find a man to marry and get pregnant from before their eggs dry up and they find themselves rocking in a chair and wondering where it all went wrong.

Of the 34 women over 30 that I spoke to, all of which had pursued higher education, 30 of them faced the fact that they were not wife material, nor did they ever want to be.

Why? Why is that more and more often, we’re meeting women who aren’t interested in the white picket fence, husband, mortgage, and children lifestyle? The women told me why and I’m about to break it down for you.

Case for women not to marry

1- Sexual freedom

This is not to imply that all single women in their 30s sleep with every man that breathes in their direction, but it does allow single women to pick and choose the men they want and the ones they don’t, and walk away with out a hitch if things aren’t going well.

Marriage is a little messier.

Also, some women are content with casual dating and don’t seem interested in picking up dirty socks or stressing about what to make a man for dinner when she gets home from work.

Case for women not to marry

2- Answer to no one

If she feels like heading out at 2 am for a drink with a girlfriend, she can without batting an eyelash. If she wants to spend a weekend in Miami, she doesn’t have to plan accordingly; she can just up and go.

That’s the beauty of being a single, successful woman; she can do what she wants, when she wants, without constantly having to consider someone else.

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  • Erich

    You could use most of the same reasons for: “The case for being unemployed”.

  • Adam

    A lot of them (especially 2 and 3) also sound like they’re coming from Peter Pan. “You can do what you want when you want, you don’t ever have to grow up!”

    But then again, Erich is probably, like me, a male with a high IQ….

  • Adam

    Actually, I’m having trouble seeing which of these reasons apply to women but not to men. Maybe the career stuff, in a traditional marriage, but that’s so low-ranked here it actually gets put after the one about how single women are too impatient and selfish to get married (which is somehow a good thing). Guys have all the immaturity problems too, the desire for freedom, to randomly head with the boys to Vegas for a weekend. So why would smart men want marriage so much more than smart women? Why is this article a case particularly for women not to marry?

  • Vanessa Hunt

    I hate to break it to you, but while men used to be the breadwinners in the household and women were the home makers, nowadays, women are responsible for both winning bread and taking care of the house. That’s why this article is particularly for women – the question is: Is it worth trying to do it all? Usually, the answer is “no”.

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  • Cat

    These all sounds like excuses to me. As single women age they’ll find that they have fewer and fewer single girlfriends with whom to go for 2am drinks. And sure, I had more sexual freedom when I was single but it got real old real fast. Even a high-powered female exec will regret focusing solely on her career when she’s old and barren or if she loses her job and has no one to comfort her. Compromise and taking care of someone other than yourself means being less selfish and everyone needs that.

    Nothing wrong with being single, and it’s better to be single than unhappily attached, but there ain’t nothing wrong with admitting to wanting to find a good man.

  • Zoe

    Oh yes, this is all so true. However, the reason THIS sexy, 30-year-old woman (enrolled, yes, in a graduate degree) is single is because she just hasn’t decided which of the many options she has are likeable enough to date long-term. I’m very much interested in getting married, but I’m in no rush to do so and I’m sure I’m not an exception. I believe this generation of women will get married later, adopt instead of having their own kids, and contribute to society by giving back in other ways (volunteering, donating to charities, voting wisely). And why not? :)