You began dating a man you thought was perfect, but with every passing day you began noticing something strange about his relationship with his mother. You’re beginning to get a sneaking suspicion that your man is mama’s boy.
While the signs that he’s a mama’s boy range from mild to downright creepy, if you’re guy displays all the following signs, you might want to rethink your future with him.
Signs he’s a mama’s boy #1
He talks to her every day
It’s one thing if your guy talks to his mom once a day because she has no one in the world but him (which is still a scary thought), but if he and his mom have telephone conversations multiple times a day to gossip or just tell each other the little things that girlfriends usually tell one another, head for the hills.
What makes this so frightening is the fact that when anything significant, or insignificant happens in his life, the first woman he thinks to call is his mom, not you.
Signs he’s a mama’s boy #2
He refers to her all the time
If you make him pancakes, he tells you how his mom makes them (and, of course, his mom’s are better); if you rent a movie, he mentions that his mom never liked horror films.
At every turn in your relationship, his mother manages to creep into the conversation to the point where you begin to get nauseated. But you shouldn’t get nauseated. You know why? Because his mom would never do that.
Signs he’s a mama’s boy #3
He compares you to her
You thought it was cute when you began dating and he told you how much he loves and respects his mother. You even thought it was charming when he told you that he’d consider himself lucky if he married someone like her.
But now that you’re in it, he’s beginning to really push the envelope by comparing everything you do or say to the way his mother does it. Of all the signs that he’s a mama’s boy, this is one that will wear thin quickly.
Signs that he’s a mama’s boy #4
She feeds & cleans for him
Even though he lives on his own, his mother goes to his place to clean up for him and drop off food. It seems that she still babies him after all these years.
And he loves it. He even manages to justify that he’s too busy to cook and clean, and since his mom has no problem doing it, he lets her. Or what’s worse; he pays her to take care of him.
Signs that he’s a mama’s boy #5
He tells her private things about you
The last time you went over to his mom’s place (which is probably weekly), she asked you if your yeast infection had dissipated. Shocked and utterly confused, you answered “yes” and were quick to change the subject.
Lo and behold, your boyfriend told his mom about your little affliction and thought nothing of it. You, on the other hand, begin to wonder what the hell else he has revealed about you.
Signs that he’s a mama’s boy #6
She plays a role in his choices
Before he makes any decision, whether it be buying a home with you or heading on a fishing expedition with the boys, he consults his mom for her input.
What’s worse is that her advice is usually taken as gospel and there’s nothing you can do or say about it. And if you try, whoa! Your boyfriend will huff and puff and get mighty upset with you. Mommy would never do that!
Signs that he’s a mama’s boy #7
He doesn’t defend you
If you and he are in the presence of his mother and she’s says something insulting like, “Remember your ex-girlfriend, David? Oh, she was a fantastic girlfriend. It would be great if you found a woman like her,” he doesn’t say a word in your defense.
But if you dared to say anything remotely insulting about his mother in private, like “I can’t stand it when your mom belittles me,” he immediately jumps to her defense. It seems you just can’t win.
Signs he’s a mama’s boy prevail
If you’re prepared to put up with a man who has an Oedipal complex, then more power to you, but if you can foresee the future and it’s already getting on your nerves, you need to face the fact that you will not be able to change the situation.
A boy who loves his mother dearly won’t stop because it’s hurting you. He’d rather let you go than lose his mother. And before it comes down to an ultimatum that you’re going to lose, you should run, not walk, away.