We all make mistakes with our profiles when we first start out, it’s a learning curve for all new members and not the end of the world.  The following are some of the most common mistakes that women can avoid making to guarantee a more successful experience.  I’m not suggesting that men don’t have faults in their profiles, far from it, these are just some of the errors commonly attributed to female profiles.

Like many other men, I read some women’s profiles and just can’t quite fathom what message they intended to get across.  Your profile is your ‘life line’ to success and should be considered a work in progress until you are receiving a satisfactory number of responses or contacts.  Don’t be disheartened at any stage, and simply keep working on it until you get it right.

1.) Nondescript Language in Profile Description

The first and most common mistake I see is nondescript language in the profile description.  The issue here is that men will perceive you struggle to make decisions and worse, they could quite incorrectly see you as ‘high maintenance’.  If other males are like me they will want to make plans, perhaps take you out or talk about a common interest.  A woman that doesn’t identify her passions or the activities that excite her can appear like hard work and unappealing.  Add to this the fact that guys do like to have their own time, doing things they enjoy by themselves or with other male friends. If you give the impression you don’t have interests of your own for when he’s not around he will most likely keep searching.

It’s okay to be a little non-specific in your profile in order to attract more people but don’t be afraid to offer some detail about what you like to do.  Provide something that gives your potential dates a chance to open communication.  Giving guys a sense of what you enjoy will further encourage them to look for more detail and ask you questions.

Try to avoid language like “I have so much love to give!”  I think most males will see this as scary, and in all likelihood perceive you as desperate.  Try to focus on your own personality and interests than your desire to have a relationship.  The fact that your on a dating site is evidence enough that you are looking for a connection, don’t waste valuable profile space by rambling on about your desires.  Talk about what gets you excited and what you enjoy doing, this is far more appealing and likely to create intrigue and a hunger to find out more about you.

2.) Relationship Expectations

Another issue that I see quite regularly is women raising the idea of relationship expectations.  To most guys this is a real turn-off!  Even if a potential partner wants a serious relationship too, you may come across as a bit demanding.  Worse still, he may see you as a personality type that will be judgmental and constricting.  Guys like a bit of freedom, even in a committed relationship.  Any notion that you could potentially smother them will put them off for sure.

Don’t draw false conclusions of a connection simply because someone has messaged you.  The reality is it takes time to get to know someone and it may take weeks or months before you are both totally comfortable.  It’s the same for everyone and the best course of action is to keep things simple until you are both prepared to look at things on a more serious level.  Instead of focusing on writing about a future relationship, write about yourself and what you enjoy about life.  The rest will follow without any need to push.

3.) Unreasonable Salary Range

One thing I have started to notice more recently in looking at women’s profiles is unreasonable salary range expectations in their search criteria.  Most girls want to meet a successful guy but it doesn’t make them a perfect choice.  Apart from anything else you are really restricting your options if you judge a man by the size of his wallet.  Consider the fact that a lot of guys will think you only want them for their money.  Try not to make the mistake of compartmentalizing your options because of money.  Money may provide you with material possessions and status but it doesn’t guarantee happiness.

Over the years I have spoken with more than one male who actually downplay their true income.  The reasoning is quite simple, this course of action serves as a filter to minimize contact with women seeking richer men for the wrong reasons.  I totally understand why they do this and as long as they are happy with limiting potential contacts it’s actually not bad practice.

I realize that a successful male may appear to offer some security and this is an important aspect to keep in mind.  A stable partnership where your man doesn’t bail and leave you in debt is a perfectly reasonable thing to want.  I’m simply trying to make the point that you shouldn’t have to raise these issues in your profile.  Don’t frighten off a potential partner by looking like a “Gold Digger”.  You can investigate these concerns further into your communication with a more subtle approach and avoid the chances of missing out on meeting someone special because of money.

I hope these few key issues will help you to build a better and more productive profile.  I can’t stress enough the importance of a well-structured and informative profile.  I look forward to providing you with more advice to maximize your online dating experience in the future.

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