Gentlemen, while you like to think you are the “masters of pleasure” in the bedroom, the unfortunate truth is that most of us are guilty of committing many faux-pas during the act. Even the best lovers can make a mistake (or two) between the sheets. Lucky for you, we’ve turned this terrible prospect into to your advantage. Below are five of the most common faux-pas men commit during sex. Good news: these were taken straight from the ladies’ mouths and here’s what you should avoid at all cost.

1. Skipping foreplay
Skipping the warm up phase is a big no no. This mistake is usually made when you are either too eager or in a long term relationship where you have stopped putting in the effort in pleasuring your lady.You would be amazed at how much eroticism and passion is unleashed in a woman by a body massage, a suckled nipple, or simple embrace. With a little time and effort, a seismic orgasm can result, heightening the anticipation and experience when penetration occurs. Besides, women can have multiple orgasms. Sex is not a race: bigger and better things await.

2. Never assumed she is satisfied
Just because you climaxed, don’t assume your partner did too. At the age and time where a simple Google search and “how to” guides can provide you with tricks to fulfil your lady’s wildest fantasies, it is quite surprising that men still don’t know their way around their partner’s body. The secret to satisfying your partner is to explore her body, get have a clear idea of her erogenous zones and to find out what makes them tick. Focusing on your own self-gratification will obviously make a woman feel under appreciated as well as unsatisfied. Pay close attention at how she responds to your touch and react accordingly.

3. Silent and emotionless
Think silence is golden? Well think twice. While men seem to think that being silent during sex is a safer option, women want to hear you speak out on what you desire. A little moaning or whispering something like “This feels good” will give your lover a little guidance and create a stronger emotional connection. A little dirty talk won’t hurt either…Hell! You might find out their erogenous zones with the right words.

4. Not lasting long enough
There’s probably no worse feeling than releasing prematurely. A little penile control can ensure ejaculation occurs when the time is right. Spending more time with foreplay may help with learning how to feel pleasure and satisfaction without ejaculation. Lasting longer increases her chances of feeling the pleasure she so desperately craves. Remember: sex is not a race.

5. Bailing
While you might have to fight the irresistible urge to hit the hay after the strenuous workout, don’t. Cuddle up; make her feel loved for the time she has been with you. While it may require some effort, being the lover she wants you to be is doable.

If you can avoid these mistakes, not only will you be the lover women dream about, they’ll keep coming back for more.